2 February, 2026
A grave mistake is to make decisions emotionally and then justify them through logic and reasoning; instead, we must make decisions based on facts, reason, and logic and then become passionate and emotional about them.
Choose a life partner based on cold calculations, ensuring that they fall in the ambit of your ideology, purpose, and vision, and then look for other attributes like looks, style, family, etc. Chances are that you will fall in love with them after marriage. And even if you don‘t fall in love, relax: the determinant that is more important in the success of a marriage is mutual respect and not love.
Please don‘t try the other way around. Remember that it is not necessary to marry someone you have fallen in love with.
As an airline captain, find a competent co-pilot and see if you can find feelings for her; don‘t try to prove that the girl you love is a good co-pilot. In the former, even if a romantic relationship doesn‘t develop, at least both of you and the passengers will arrive at the destination safely.
There are the lucky people who, by the blessings of Allah (SWT), arrive at the beautiful intersection of cold calculations and feelings. I will admit that such an arrival unleashes amazing human potential. Imagine this intersection for your career, relationships, projects, life strokes, and masterstrokes. Just Imagine for a moment!
When I think of this, I can‘t escape thinking about Khadijah (RA), the first wife of Rasulullah (SAS). She had many qualities and attributes that many in Mecca desired to marry her. Yes, she
was perfect for the vision of the Prophet (SAS), and he went on to love her the way he never loved a lady in his life afterward.
Remember, the purpose must always come before passion.