Are You a Good Parent?

Here is a small questionnaire to help you decide. Please score 1 for “Yes” and 0 for “No”, then add up your scores at the end.

1. 1. Do you believe that parenting is a skill that must be learned like other skills? (Yes/No)
   2. Have you attended lectures or workshops on parenting? (Yes/No)
   3. Have you read at least one book on parenting? (Yes/No)
   4. Do you have a clear long-term vision as a parent, and do you know where you want to be as a parent in the long term? (Yes/No)
   5. Do you have a clear long-term vision for your children, where you know where you want them to be as future adults? (Yes/No)
   6. Have you designated a murabbi (mentor) for all your children over 12 years of age? (Yes/No)
   7. Do you have a list of positive and negative character traits of your children like Honesty, Taqwa (being mindful of Allah ﷻ), Haya (Modesty), etc.? (Yes/No)
   8. Do your children clearly understand their Ultimate Purpose, i.e., why Allah ﷻ has created them? (Yes/No)
   9. Do your children clearly understand their vision in the Ummati (followers) role of Rasulullah ﷺ? (Yes/No)
   10. Are the visions of your children documented on paper? (Yes/No)
   11. I understand that the tarbiyah of my children is an obligation (Farz ul Ain) similar to Salat, Fasting, and Hajj. (Yes/No)
   12. I know that neglecting the tarbiyah of my children is a major sin (Kabeera). (Yes/No)
   13. I know that the ultimate responsibility of the tarbiyah of the children lies with the father. (Yes/No)
   14. I have never physically punished my children. (Yes/No)
   15. I take time to have one-on-one meetings with my children. (Yes/No)

Here’s how to gauge yourself as a parent based on your score:

1. • If your score is between 11–15, then Ma-sha-Allah, you are an excellent parent! You don’t need the Strategic Parenting workshop. You should assist us in teaching this material.
   • If your score is between 6–10, then you are doing well, but I strongly advise you to take the workshop as it will vastly improve your knowledge and skills.
   • If your score is between 0–5, then you desperately need this workshop and should drop everything to show up.