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New Year Resolutions

Why am I against New Year resolutions? In order to explain, let us briefly discuss the concept of the surface structure and deep structure of communication…

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Pakistan

Pakistan has a rich history and culture and has significantly contributed to the world in various fields….

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About Credibility

Avoid making a threat in life, whether it is to your child or a country across the border. And if you have to, ensure you carry it out at all costs…

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The Default Relationship

The default state of relationship between a father and a child is defined by the father‘s role as a qawwam (sustainer, caretaker, protector)…

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Beauty of Clear Visions

The beauty of having a clear vision is that as much as it tells you what to do, it clearly tells you what not to do. When you say that your vision is to be in Islamabad next week…

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Gaza and Iqbal

In Gaza today, the sentiments of Ismail Haniyeh, the chairman of Hamas, are beautifully captured by the words of Iqbal…

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Don‘t Stress It

Steven Kang, a cardiologist, writes in his article “Stress Can Increase Your Risk for Heart Disease,” published in the Health Encyclopedia of the University of Rochester Medical Center…

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Shadows

In my encounters with many unhappy individuals, I’ve noticed a recurring life misstep: instead of focusing on what lies within their control, they fixate on…

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Practice Makes Good

People become good at what they practice.
The oppressed (مظلوم) practice prayers with tearful eyes and trembling hands…

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Are You a Good Parent?

Here is a small questionnaire to help you decide. Please score 1 for “Yes” and 0 for “No”, then add up your scores at the end…

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Zulm

People have asked me about my position in the Israel-Hamas conflict. While I am not a scholar, here are my views. In Islam, the default state of the relationship….

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Things That Glitter

A client that I am coaching recently inquired about the issues with Western coaching models like Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)….

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Healthy Investments

Your future health depends more on the investments you make during times of wellness than on the money spent after falling ill…

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Illusions of Power

I have learnt in life that it is very important to distinguish between the following three states: power, helplessness, and the illusion of power….

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Get Focused

Focus on action and silence, if your noise is not making a difference!…

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Ultimate Purpose and Destinations

Remember that the destination in life is set by our Ultimate Purpose (our reason for existence), and the vision sets the milestones…

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Miseducation

Miseducating children is a far greater crime than not educating them!
John Taylor Gatto was a seventh-grade teacher with twenty-six years of experience…

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استاد

…جب میری عمر ۱۸ سال کے آس پاس تھی تو میرے مشفق استاد امان اللہ اسماعیل صاحب نے ایک

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Single Shot

You only have one shot at life, go in with all guns blazing!…

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The Character Continuum

We all possess character traits like courage, generosity, modesty, and gratitude. Similarly, we may have negative character traits like cowardice…

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حسن ظن

شہرت، قبولیت عند اللہ کی نہ شرط ہے اور نہ ہی دلیل— ہاں ایک علامت ہو سکتی ہے۔

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Failure of Circuits

While learning Digital Circuit Design as part of my EE degree, I learnt that when a circuit fails, it could be either an application fault or a design fault…

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What People Teach Us

Many long years ago, when I was running a medical ward in Kandahar as part of my relief work for Afghanistan…

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Benefiting From Teachers and Mentors

This is the first in a series of three life lessons about benefiting most from your teachers and mentors…

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دنیا

یہ دنیا اہل دنیا کو بسی معلوم ہوتی ہے نظر والوں کو یہ اجڑی ہوئی معلوم ہوتی ہے

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Speeding Cars and Time

The only way to get relief supplies into war-torn Bosnia was through the ports of Croatia. Abbas and I set up a warehouse on the coast…

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Assets

Children are one of the greatest assets to powerful visions. When a holder of a grand vision is not planning to have a lot of kids, I see a contradiction!…

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Impact of Teachers

Always keep in touch with teachers who have significantly impacted your life or whose knowledge and ideas you share with others. Why?..

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The Question to Ask

Many long years ago, on asking his daughter‘s hand in marriage, the father asked me how much money I made?…

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Essentials and Non-Essentials

Without the ability to differentiate between essentials and non-essentials in life, your time management will fail…

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Kicking Debt

Last night, I met with a CFO of a multinational whom our Ministry of Finance often calls in for advice. What he said was stunning…

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Legacies

Recently, Dr. Abdul Bari Khan, the founder of Indus Hospital, told me that he went to Dr. Amjad Ali, the founder of Madrassa e-Aisha…

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Time over Money

When your realization that time is more important than money turns to belief, you have taken one of the most important steps towards creating a life of significance.

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Be the Light

If you see darkness all around you, look again. Maybe you are the light!…

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اندھیرے

کچھ اور بڑھ گئے جو اندھیرے تو کیا ہوا مایوس تو نہیں ہیں طلوعِ سحر سے ہم

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Barakah

Saving time has two components: one is to reduce the time of doing stuff by cutting down on time-wasting activities, which contributes to our efficiency…

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Relations with Relatives

This Ramadan let us enhance our relations with our relatives. Allah (SWT) says:…

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An Element of Greatness

I discovered that one of the key elements of greatness is to treat people whose Zarf is lower than yours according to your Zarf and not theirs…

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Systems of Leadership

After listening to Myles Munroe (a leadership consultant from the Bahamas), witnessing the pathetic political circus in Islamabad…

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Zarf

The Ala Zarf — the people of high Zarf (magnanimity) — will remain indebted to you for life on receiving favor and will strive to return it in multitudes….

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About Character Traits

In an earlier post, we discussed foundational character traits where one character trait becomes a foundation for other character traits…

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Support the Affected

I increased the salary of three of my drivers from Rs. 40,000/month to Rs. 45,000/month today. This section of our society…

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Servitude

For the past few months, living and traveling with the Afghans from the cities to the remotest mountains and diving deeper into their past…

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Returning Favors

Loyalty demands that a favor be returned, but when—I have learnt the hard way—this violates Shariah or prudence…

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Painting the Vision

Seven years ago, I consulted with Diamond Paints. We came up with a compelling purpose and a hundred-year vision…

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Short and Safe Routes

As I delve deeper into the history and geopolitics of the subcontinent and expand my travel to Afghanistan, Nepal and Sri Lanka….

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Disorganization

I set up Timelenders twenty years ago and have trained thousands of people from over 75 nationalities!…

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Garments

Recently a friend asked me for advice regarding a girl he wanted to marry. I was asked to listen to the dialogue as he proposed…

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Brainpower

Want to work on something that needs brainpower?…

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What Changes the World (2)

Great ideas never change the world!..

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Vassal States and Imran Khan

The word vassal is derived from the Latin word vassallus meaning servant. Collins Dictionary defines vassal as..

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Limits of AI

Last week I had the privilege of traveling with Dr. Shahid Mahmud, Chairman and CEO of the Interactive Group of companies.

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Love vs. Value

You want to be loved, or do you want to be valued? Of course, your answer would be both. But what if you had to choose between the two?

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Par Excellence

After posting my last life lesson about not compromising our present excellence for the future, I have received several queries about further elaborating on the idea.

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Quest for Excellence

My dear friend, Maulana Momin Hayat Khan, taught me a revolutionary lesson many years ago. He said..

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وہی رہے گا

جو کھا کے پتھر دعائیں دے گا وہی رہے گا ہر ایک نشتر کو جو سہے گا، وہی رہے گا

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Misaligned Professions

The misalignment of your profession with your ultimate purpose (ultimate purpose is the reason for our existence) is like a slow-progressing deadly cancer..

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Romantic Perspective

As opposed to other ways of life, In Islam, romance in marriage is not the cake; it is the icing on the cake.

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Power of Tahajjud

If you seriously want something and not getting up in Tahajjud and crying your heart out in front of Allah (SWT), you are not serious enough!

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Purpose before Passion

A grave mistake is to make decisions emotionally and then justify them through logic and reasoning; instead, we must make decisions based on facts..

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The Art of Thinking

The word ‘think’ is a verb. Oxford Learner‘s Dictionary defines it as: “to use your mind to consider something, to form connected ideas, to try to solve problems, etc.”

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Assumptions and Facts

One of the most significant leaps in knowledge and wisdom happens on the day when we can discern between assumptions and facts in our minds.

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Building Children

As a life coach, I frequently encounter parents who seek my guidance for their troubled children.

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No Midnight

One of the most important lessons of my life is encapsulated in the following quote and a verse of poetry..

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What Changes the World

Visions don‘t change the world, masterstrokes do!

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The Gift of Enlightenment

The most profound gift one can offer a fellow human being is the enlightenment of the reason for their existence.

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Creating Masterstrokes

I define a life stroke as a significant achievement in life. It may not be as substantial as a masterstroke, but it does have a considerable impact.

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Don‘t Retire the Vision

Retire from your profession but not your vision! I once asked a government officer about his plans after retirement. He replied: “I will relax and play with my grandchildren.”

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Shoes and Shoe Racks!

It was sudden. There was no escape! In a masjid, I found shoes strewn on the steps. I picked up my shoes and had no option but to step over the shoes.

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Set the Destination

Multiple people requested an explanation to the recent life lesson speaking about setting our destination by our purpose rather than our vision.

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Ultimately

Remember that the destination in life is set by our Ultimate Purpose (our reason of existence) and the milestones are set by the vision.

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The Real Lessons of History

At 15,397 feet above sea level, the Khunjerab Pass is the world’s highest paved border crossing between Pakistan and China. It is twice the height of Murree (7,517 ft).

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Choosing Mentors

Choose your mentors wisely! Remember, a piece of marble is as valuable as the pair of hands sculpting it.

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The Time for Exercise

The golden rule for finding time for exercise, as Warren Buffett says, is: “Do not save what is left after spending, but spend what is left after saving.”

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Responding to Fire

I got the following comment on my last post referring to Pakistan as a burning building..

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Categorize Yourself

Where do you stand if a building is on fire? When a building catches fire, the residents immediately fall into five categories..

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Social Media Interaction

Is your interaction with social media positive or negative? When we interact with social media, we are either creating content (or sharing) or consuming content.

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Conquering Death

Want to teach your daughter how to live? Teach her how to die first; she will amaze you with how she will fathom the intricacies of life.

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Magic of Mornings

Do you want to catch the magic of the morning hours? Here are some steps to wake up early and catch those magical early morning hours, full of Barakah and productivity

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About Ideologies

Looking today at either side of the line drawn by Sir Henry Mortimer Durand on November 12, 1893, I realized that when an ideology weds the will to sacrifice, revolutions are born.

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The Truth about Time

I’ve learned that almost all of the people who are hugely successful in this world and the next know a truth very well

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Worthy Visions

It is of great honor to go down fighting for a worthy vision backed by a correct ideology! Success and failure are just secondary.

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Winning the Battle

One important lesson I’ve learned in life is that if I don’t complete my plan for the day before Fajr (the pre-dawn prayer in Islam), I’ve already lost half the battle for that day.

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Toys

If you enquire a highly distressed adult who has lost a cheap toy about the cause of his distress and were to learn that the reason is the misplacement of the toy, you would be shocked.

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A Failed State?

Pakistan is not a case study of a failed state or a failed nation, it is a case study of a failed system of governance!

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The Darkness under the Lamp (Part 2 of 2)

Like the girl at the Kabul Airport, Mullah Shakeeb could have also been a Pakistani citizen as he grew up, was educated, and spent decades in Pakistan.

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The Darkness under the Lamp (Part 1 of 2)

Last week in Kabul, a young airport security officer began speaking in broken Urdu, sensing that my wife didn‘t speak English

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The Nakhla Program

Today I explained the Nakhla program for widows and orphans to His Excellency, Amir Khan Mutaqqi, the Foreign Minister of Afghanistan.

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Ramadan Mubarak to Afghanistan

Along with the Muslims of Afghanistan, I wish you Ramadan Mubarak. Afghanistan is under siege…

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COVID Conspiracy!

While many Muslims were arguing that COVID vaccination is a Jewish conspiracy, the Jewish state rushed to vaccinate..

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The Alchemist

My recommendation of an article in my last lesson has created some confusion. Please note that when I recommend something

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Caring for Orphans

Here is an ayah and a hadith about orphans:

“And worship Allah and do not associate anything with Him, and be good to both parents and to the relative and the orphans and the destitute…

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The Water Principle

Here is a high-leverage intervention for your health: double the intake of water and watch multiple health indicators improve dramatically.

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The Busy Formula

Being extremely busy can be an exception but not the rule in your life. If this is the rule, then your most precious goals in your life are at a severe risk!

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Beauty!

A few years ago, a girl came up to me after my training. “I am not beautiful”, she wept, “I will never get married.”

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چراغِ آرزو

فقط باتیں اندھیروں کی محض قصے اجالوں کے چراغِ آرزو لے کر نہ تم نکلے نہ ہم نکلے

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Solidify Relationship

Three sentences said earnestly can solidify all of your relationships—from your five-year old to your boss; from your wife to Allah (SWT)

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The To-Do List

If you don‘t start your day without a proper to-do list, your credibility, your financial future, your relationships and your hereafter are all at risk!

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Losing Weight

Center for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), one of the leading health Think Tanks of the US, states that people who have obesity, compared to those with a normal or [...]

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دشواریاں

کوئی جماعت یا ادارہ جس کے معنی خیز عزائم ہوں، اس کے افراد میں کچھ عزیمت پر چلنے والے اور کچھ رخصتوں کے راہرو تو ہو سکتے ہیں لیکن اس کی قیادت میں اہل رخصت

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زمانے کے نشیب وفراز

دنیا کی صحرا نوردی کے نتیجے میں، میں نے سیکھا کہ زمانے کے نشیب وفراز سے عزیمت والے کم اور رخصت والے زیادہ متاثر ہوتے ہیں۔

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خواہشوں کے عذاب

خلیل الرحمان قمر صاحب نے کچھ اپنے اشعار اپنے کتبے پر لکھنے کی وصیت کی ہے۔ میں چند لوگوں کو جانتا ہوں کہ اگر وہ بھی شاعری کرتے تو کچھ ایسے ہی اشعار اپنے کتبوں پر لکھے جانے کے خواہاں ہوتے:

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Choose Silence!

Continually advise your children, gently pointing out their mistakes. If they continue, set creative consequences that least impact their self-esteem.

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Slowing Down

Give wings to your thoughts, not your feet.
It is the flight of ideas, not the limbs, that begets great endeavors.
Please slow down!

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Naseehat

ایک فرنگی حاکم کی اپنے بیٹے کو نصیحت
علامہ اقبال کے الفاظ میں:
سینے میں رہے رازِ ملوکانہ تو بہتر کرتے نہیں محکوم کو تیغوں سے کبھی زیر

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A Democracy

We Muslims, as a nation, have ambitions in this world. In western styled democracy, a drug addict‘s vote equals that of someone like Dr. Amjad Saqib, Dr. Abdul Bari Khan, Dr. Javed Ghani, or Mufti Taqi Usmani.

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The Battle Within

Cognitive dissonance is a battle within, avoidance of which may require battles outside. A life of principles and values requires confrontations with the world.

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No to Cognitive Dissonance!

Allah (SWT) has given us two gifts, amongst many, for our success in both worlds. First, all humans are bestowed with an innate ability to discern between good and evil. [...]

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Qasim Ali Shah Foundation Interview

In January 2018, Qasim Ali Shah Foundation did a fantastic job of interviewing me and producing a professional short video…

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Newton and Ludhianvi

A quote from Isaac Newton that I came across years ago changed my perspective on life. I have reworded it…

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Clarification

A few verses of the poetry of Ahmed Faraz that I quoted have led some people to believe that I had some negative experiences in Afghanistan.

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Faraz Remembered

On my way back from Afghanistan, the following verses of poetry of Ahmed Faraz struck a chord:

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Relationship With Children

Deep Meaningful Meeting (DMM): a tool to dramatically enhance the relationships with our children.

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Long Roads

I have learned that the roads which are the longest and the hardest are often the shortest ways to your destinations in life!

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Bonding

Why should you have a strong bond with your children? A bond between people is a strong feeling of friendship, love, or shared beliefs and experiences that unites them (Collins Dictionary).

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Iqbal Remembered

As I am preparing for my eighth trip to Afghanistan since last February, the following verses of Iqbal flood my mind: نگاہِ فقر میں شانِ سکندری کیا ہے خراج کی [...]

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Debt and Death

I recommend we document our loans and make arrangements to have family or friends pay them in case of our deaths.

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The NATO Alliance

Around 125 years ago, the colonial powers ruled most of the world, subjugating and tormenting hundreds of millions of people.

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Imam Shamil‘s Vision: From the Alleys of Memory

As war broke out between Chechnya and Russia in 1995, my foundation in Chicago tasked me to visit Chechnya and provide humanitarian assistance.

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Recognition and Appreciation: Need or Luxury?

I believe that recognition and appreciation – both for us as a person and in actions – are as innate needs of humans as water and oxygen. Just as plants [...]

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Relational Character Traits

Relational character traits – similar and dissimilar – are developed due to our relations with others..

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